A Single Girls Guide to Valentine’s Day

It’s lucky for us single folk that Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday this year! This means we can’t avoid it by hiding behind our desks at work. Let’s face it, there will be couples everywhere this Saturday. You have no other choice but to embrace the day and make it something that you will enjoy. Get out of the house! 

Morning Work Out

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Make your Valentine’s day a productive one. Don’t stay home and sulk just because you had someone for 2014. Wake up an hour earlier than you usually would on the weekends, and go exercise. I suggest going for a run in the park, embrace the day to its fullest by enjoying the greenery of nature. Exposure to light and exercise will help increase your serotonin levels, leaving you feeling happy and satisfied– forget sex! (this weekend at least).

Champagne Brunch

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Just because you aren’t “with” someone, doesn’t mean you need to be alone! Call up some of your single friends and make a date of it. After your awesome morning workout, you’ll be in a great mood ready to drink, eat and spend time with some of good friends (AKA your longest relationships). It’s the perfect opportunity to shit talk and gossip about exes past.

Catch a Movie

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Not in the mood to shop? That’s okay because one of the most anticipated movies of the year will be released on February 13– perfect timing! Don’t worry about feeling alone when you go to see 50 Shades of Grey, I would say it’s fair to assume a large portion of the audience is there for the same reasons you are. Come on, you know you want to grab some popcorn and get your guilty pleasure on.

Homemade Dinner

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At the end of the day, you deserve a nice homemade dinner. Let’s be honest, it’s a lot more satisfying to make it yourself. There’s no point in going out to eat when you can jump on Pinterest and dig up that PF Chang’s Dan Dan Noodles pin from months ago. Maybe you could pair it with some Cookie Dough Truffles? Why? Because chocolate really does make everything better.

Make the day about you and doing things for yourself that you take pleasure in. Feel free to embark on your own journey as a single woman on Valentines Day. I think you’ll know where to find me!

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5 Things to Avoid When You’re On A First Date

First dates are always nerve wracking, especially when you don’t know the person too well. Why didn’t they contact you after the first date? Did I saying too much? Too little? 
Stop right there. Think about it… How did it really go?

Here are a few ideas on what could make or break your date, avoid some of these and you’ll be on your way to a second date!

1. Meeting at a bar

Bars are crowded and noisy. First dates are about getting to know each other. It’s a little hard to do that when the person next to you is yelling equally as loud at his date because he’s trying to talk over you. Don’t get me wrong, I think meeting for drinks is fine, however it should be at a bar/restaurant or somewhere that also serves food. It’s hard not to feel obligated to order another drink when the waiter takes away your empty glass, you need something on the table! You don’t want to drink without some food in your system and get tipsy and spill the beans about how attractive you actually think they are (not time to stroke the ego yet!). As Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger always says “2 drink maximum!”

2. Talking about your EX

Exes are always a touchy subject. They were such a big part of your life and now it’s all just history. Unfortunately, the topic usually comes up one way or another, often in some type of distaste. Other times, in a positive way- maybe there is a great icebreaker story that involved your ex? Either way, don’t bring it up! The last thing your potential partner wants to hear is you talking about your really awesome or really crazy ex. If you must tell a really funny story, I usually change “my ex” to “my friend,” giving the story a neutral tone.

3. Monopolizing the conversation

This is probably the main reoccurring issue that I have with first dates. My date always spends about 75 percent of the time talking about themselves. Sometimes I wonder if they know they are on a date with me, or they think they are on a date with themselves. Some people find it easier to talk about themselves, others find it easier to ask questions. If your date turns every question they ask you into a monologue about themselves, then don’t encourage them by asking more questions. Maybe they’ll realize eventually how they’ve been dominating the conversation… maybe not.

4. Using your cell phone

I know this is difficult in the prime of the technology era but it’s a big turn off when my date pulls out their phone. Sometimes, its okay, like if they want to show me a photo of something they were referring to (puppies at home are always okay). However, I think it’s cuter if they just text it to me later to try to spark a new conversation. The only time it is okay to pull out your phone on a date is when your date is in the bathroom and you are killing time. Don’t send a snapchat or take a “selfie” while on the date (maybe after!).

5. Talking about the future

Whoa buddy, its only date number one. I’m still trying to decide if you are worthy of a date two- don’t start planning it yet! I can’t stand when my date automatically assumes that because they are having a good time, there will be a second date. Bringing up the long term future is even worse! First dates are about getting to know the basics, feeling each other out, seeing if there is any potential. No one wants to talk about how many kids they want, or weekend getaways to the cabin just yet.

Don’t worry, steer clear of these five red flags and you’ll land yourself a good one.